What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is how we see and value ourselves. It shapes how we show up in the world, how we respond to challenges, and how we relate to others. When self-esteem is low, it can lead to patterns of self-criticism, people-pleasing, or avoiding opportunities out of fear of failure. You might feel like you're not “good enough” no matter what you do, or you may struggle to acknowledge your strengths and worth.

The Role of Self-Compassion and Self-Worth

Improving self-esteem doesn’t mean being constant positive or pretending everything is fine. The goal is to build a more compassionate and realistic relationship with yourself. Self-compassion means treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend, especially during moments of struggle. Developing a sense of self-worth involves recognizing that your value isn’t tied to perfection, productivity, or others’ approval; it’s something you carry simply because you exist.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapists can help you explore the roots of low self-esteem, such as past criticism, unmet emotional needs, or internalized messages from family, school, or society. In therapy, you can shift harsh inner dialogue, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and practice more balanced ways of seeing yourself. Over time, therapy supports you in building confidence, setting healthy boundaries, and embracing who you are, not who you think you “should” be.